Sorrow: a poem

Sorrow 
by Janet Muirhead Hill
(in memory of Florence Ore—a poem I wrote about a year ago as my dearest friend, mentor, and supporter was dying. She passed away on October 17, 2014)


Sorrow sits upon a shelf
high above my head.
Unwilling to see inside myself
I avoid what I most dread.

And so I find I do not feel.
My mind and body are numb.
The source of pain seems so unreal
that tears refuse to come.

To face another loss to death
is hard for me to do.
As I concentrate on my breath
I wish more life for you.

My dear friend, I love you so,
I don't want to say goodbye,
but I see that you must go
and in time, I know, I'll cry.

Aunt Mama, by Joseph Priddy

We hope you will enjoy this sweet and poignant story as much as we do. It was previously published in Mobius in 1997. Our thanks to Joseph Priddy, the author, for permission to publish it here.

Aunt Mama

by Joseph Priddy

        

Though I am Susie Hanson's invisible friend, I not longer sit across from her and drink imaginary tea from make-believe cups while she corrects my table manners.  To share a spot of tea is of course the first duty of an invisible friend, and I take that duty seriously; in fact the circumstance of our introduction was a group tea. But as I intimated, our association is no longer playful.

         Susie was five years old when she lost her childhood. No longer trusting adults, too agitated to seek comfort even in me, she withdrew. Nevertheless throughout this last year, and in keeping with the second and higher duty of an invisible friend, I stayed by Susie’s side. Audience to her abuse, helpless to intervene, I hoped against hope the right person would come into her life and help Susie to see through the pain.

         For the information of those who have never had the need of an invisible friend you should understand that unlike a guardian angel an invisible friend is never assigned to one person exclusively and is therefore free to mingle. To be privy to the thoughts and emotions of an entire gathering of minds helps an invisible friend to maintain polite order at a large tea party, for sure, but the privilege of overhearing minds also carries with it the third and highest duty of an invisible friend.

         I was there when Kay came into Susie’s life. Theirs was a union of souls, a freshened soul lighter for the bond, and under a circumstance which makes the following story not Kay’s or Susie’s, one separate from the other, but a story of theirself.

         I have here taken the initiative to present theirself from my single and privileged overview. That, to honor and bless as one these two souls who exist in sight and touch of each other—two souls who go on existing because of each other—that is the third and highest duty of an invisible friend.

         With a fresh plaster cast on her left forearm Susie sat in the passenger seat of the car with her head bowed. When the caseworker slowed then turned the car right and into a gravel driveway Susie did not look up. To remain apart from this development she stared at a vacant place in space, a place previously occupied by me.

         The left side of Susie’s face was a smear of yellow and green and purple skin, the eye a puffed slit. Above her eye, what appeared to be a long eyebrow was in truth an extension in black stitches, the snipped ends of each stitch pointing like errant hairs. Other injuries, not evident to any eye, hung in a fragile balance of repair, unstitched.

         The caseworker turned off the ignition.

         “She’s a nice lady, Susannah. A widow in her sixties. And she’s helped us out before with cases like yours. Having had a childhood similar to yours she understands your . . . difficulty. You’ll be here a few days and until your permanent foster parents can come down-state to pick you up. And don’t worry; you won’t be sent home again. Not this time. Susannah? Susannah, we’re here. Hello?”

         Though especially sore in a familiar place Susie did not grunt as she stood out of the car; she had learned not to call attention to herself, not to advertise her presence, not to seem to exist.

         Inside the farmhouse Susie stood alongside the caseworker, head down, staring at Kay’s white slippers.  

         “We appreciate your charity, Mrs. Winslow. She’s a quiet girl, and, well, frankly she doesn’t talk much at all. At least I never heard her talk. Shake hands with Mrs. Winslow, Susannah.”

         Having been spotted Susie felt obligated to raise her hand but not her face.

         Ignoring Susie’s hand, and in a gesture of absent familiarity, Kay swept her palm over Susie’s head and drew Susie to her, resting Susie’s discolored face against her housedress.

         “Thank you, we’ll be just fine now.”
         Susie recognized the tone of dismissal in Kay’s voice, but the caseworker kept talking, on and on, and the voices over her head soon drifted from her awareness. Replacing the focus of Susie’s attention was the warmth of Kay’s stomach at her face, a warmth as pleasant as the liquid commotion of a hot bath. Tired, careless, drawn to the sensation, Susie sagged against the bath of human warmth, immersing her injured face. And in that unguarded moment of wild faith Susie inhaled through her pressed nose, sighing inwards, breathing through Kay’s dress the thermal narcotic of close human skin.

         “Thanks again, Mrs. Winslow. I’m sorry we didn’t get any of her clothes—oh I almost forgot—here’s her medication, both prescriptions self-explanatory. This’s the ointment. I’ll call. By-by, Susannah.”

         Susie heard the entrance door close. She heard the car start. She heard the crunch of gravel under tires. Susie understood that succession of events, but she did not understand why Kay still held her close, with both hands now. Warily, Susie looked up to Kay’s face for the first time, a face which was forming a wide grin, pleased, and including Susie as the first ingredient of its growth.

         “Are you hungry, Susie? May I call you Susie?”

         Susie’s shoulders moved up in a hesitant shrug.

         Kay read volumes in Susie’s response. She spoke firmly, saving Susie the terror of making a commitment or choice, no matter how small.

         “I’m going to run a bath for you, Susie. You sit here in this chair and look around while I start your tub. I’ll come back for you.”

         Struck with the neat order of the room’s furnishings Susie looked around herself as she was told. Every object had a distinct outline, an unusual clarity, and she saw each object in the room as separate and interesting. And she could detect no odor of smoke or beer, the only familiar odor being of herself. Suddenly she needed to pee, but she didn’t know what to do about it because she was told to sit and look around. As minutes passed her need became urgent, and she sat huddled with her wrist between her legs, squirming with discomfort.

         “Take my hand, Susie. Your bath is ready. Come with me now, dear.”

         Susie was afraid to stand, but Kay was offering her hand, and Susie thought she would have to take it. As Kay pulled Susie to her feet the contraction of Susie’s helping muscles bore too heavily on her full bladder, and urine spread through her jeans. Susie looked down at the dark wet blot; then she looked up, her face stricken, her eyelash fluttering as if to hide from the blow and see it coming at the same time.

         Kay squatted to pick Susie up in her arms and carry her to the bathroom. Before setting her down on her feet Kay whispered in Susie’s ear.

         “That exact same thing happens to me, dear. You undress for your bath now while I find something clean for you to wear.”

         When Kay returned to the bathroom she looked, then blinked, then looked again before diverting her stare from Susie and turning to face a wall. Kay clutched at the pain in her throat, an angry pain, and her struggle against outburst caused her eyes to shut and her mouth to contort.

         Trembling with uncertainty Susie stood naked except for the stained woman’s underpants tied around her waist with the elastic strap of a sanitary belt. Streaked with grime her chest was littered with scabs and scars of cigarette burns in various stages of healing. Inside Susie’s thighs a green marker pen had been used to draw a filthy graffiti.

         Back in control Kay turned from the wall and finished undressing Susie, then held her waist as Susie climbed over the rim of the tub to stand in the water. Kneeling on the bathmat and trying to breathe only through her mouth Kay rested Susie’s cast arm over her shoulder as she worked. Abandoning the washcloth as being too rough for Susie’s skin, Kay wet Susie down and soaped her with bare hands; with honest bare hands that needed no excuse for where they touched; with gentle bare hands that knew where and how hard and how long to rub before moving on; with benevolent bare hands that trailed their own salve.

         Though Susie stood merely ankle deep in water she felt her entire body to be floating and, at the same time, firmly tethered to the ever-present occupation of Kay’s hands.

         “Okay now put both arms on my shoulders and stand on one foot while I do the other.”

          As Kay bent to her task Susie noticed a jagged scar on Kay’s scalp where the hair did not grow. Susie wondered if the scar hurt Kay. It better not. It just better not.

         After having her body rinsed with a plastic drinking cup Susie stood on the bathmat while Kay toweled her dry. Drowsy with physical pleasure Susie hadn’t known her skin could tingle with pleasure.

         Kay buttoned one of her husbands flannel shirts down Susie’s front as a long nightgown, then rolled the sleeves above Susie’s wrists. Beneath the outside expression of her face Kay smiled at the ponderous donuts of material hanging about Susie’s tiny wrists. Suddenly struck by that cartoon image Kay felt spontaneous laughter rising and, afraid of losing it, perhaps belittling Susie, she tried to suppress the laughter by hiding her face in her hands—but she lost it anyway, sputtering through her fingers. When Kay raised her face from her hands she was looking down at an upturned eye with a big hollow pupil in the grip of a painful and unfamiliar emotion.

         Susie had thought Kay was sobbing.

         Susie could not name her emotion, only experience it. She stretched her arms, reaching for Kay.

         Standing down on her knees Kay held Susie into her body and whispered.

         “Sweet pain; the other kind; the good kind.”

         Susie did not understand Kay’s words, only the tone of her voice, and she gave herself up to the unbearable wonder of Kay’s warmth.

         They embraced, Kay, a sixty year old woman with love to spare, and Susie, a six year old child who had, before this day, seldom been held closer than the distance required to lead her or beat her or examine her. They leaned, one soul against the other, in love, each with the same warmth but from different seasons.

         Kay allowed Susie to apply a dab of Susie’s own ointment to the jagged scar on her scalp.

         Susie allowed Kay to hold her hand while they walked.

         They sat side by side on a bench at the kitchen table and with Susie close inside Kay’s arm as they assembled a jigsaw puzzle. Happy just to watch, Susie gave up each of her turns to Kay with a giggle and a shrug.

         Kay and Susie were then free to each other, accessible. Kay wet her fingers with saliva to paste down a lick of hair on the crown of Susie’s head. The hair sprung back up, but the grooming was not wasted. Kay’s happiness was basic, nourishing; Susie’s happiness was that delicious self-awareness that follows the discovery of new knowledge, knowledge that causes one to want to burst with joy—knowledge that one is capable of caring for another.

         Placing another piece of the puzzle Kay pulled Susie under her arm for a tight hug. Susie turned her face in to breathe the warm cooking odor of Kay’s underarm. Kay bent to press her lips to the crown of Susie’s head. Susie felt Kay’s lips moving on her scalp, whispering mumbled sounds with intonation far more endearing than any words Susie could have imagined hearing. Kay’s lips felt like a wand touching Susie, promising her, transporting her, and Susie became suddenly limp in the circle of Kay’s arm, jumping awake when her head fell.

         “I’m putting you in for a nap. You can sleep in my bed. Would you like that? us being such friends?”

         Susie shrugged but nodded her head.

         Upstairs Kay held the covers back and slapped her pillow as Susie crawled in.

         “Pleasant dreams, dear. While you sleep I’m going to bake us some nice fresh bread. You dream of that.”

         Kay kissed Susie’s forehead and raised her cast arm to kiss her fingers, each one in turn. Then, in a signal for Susie to go to sleep, Kay pressed her palm lightly over Susie’s eyes and left the room.

         Lying on her back Susie wished her body to spread and fill the shallow depression Kay’s body had cast in the mattress. She had never felt so exhausted, and she had never felt so unable to sleep. Smelling Kay’s hair from the pillowcase, wishing to greet and enter and become that scent, Susie buried her face in the pillow, wallowing. She lay there believing—yet not believing. Then it hit her suddenly, sitting her up in bed, her blood Freon screaming through her veins. Not here! I don’t stay here! Overwhelmed with a sense of irrevocable loss, Susie yelled out,

         “Hi?. . . Hi?. . . Hi?. . .”

         And the meaning of her distress was: Are you there? Are you there? Are you there?

         Dropping and spilling flour everywhere, Kay spun and dashed from the kitchen and through the hall and up the stairs, the motionless air a breeze on her face. Kay was an eleven year old girl again, her chest heaving, running as if to rescue herself from the past. She had heard Susie’s yell as: Help! Help! Help!

         As if approaching the scene of a brutal crime Kay hesitated in the bedroom doorway and squinted her eyes to screen the sight before entering. Then, seeing not her own face but Susie’s face staring back, Kay moved to the bed. Three softly spoken words mended the immediate region of Susie’s unstable universe.

         “Move over, dear.”

         After kicking off her slippers and untying her apron Kay dug under the covers with her feet, and she turned Susie, wiggling against Susie’s back.

         “Like two spoons, we are.”
         Susie conformed, molding her backside into the cradle of Kay’s posture. She felt Kay’s body as a massive poultice radiating human warmth, penetrating her to the core. And Susie had a sense of Kay being behind her always, as she was now, her very presence a device to repel hurt.

         Kay held her palm over the small and rapidly beating heart, and she felt its rhythm slow as she spoke.

         “Because I love you, dear, I’m going to tell you something you will always always remember.

         “There’s a tribe of people who live deep in the African jungle, and these people love their children very much. Every child without exception is loved, just as you are loved by me. And the reason this tribe continues to survive as a race is because they love their children, who in turn love their children, and so on.

         “The tribesmen believe love is so important to their children that each child has two mothers. That’s right, two mothers. The second mother is there for the child if her other mother is busy or away. The second mother is usually an old widow with no children of her own, someone like me, and she tends after any child who needs her. And the children of the tribe call this old woman Aunt Mama.

         “Now the job of Aunt Mama is to love without condition any child who comes to her. It is a job Aunt Mama cherishes, for it is a privilege and an honor to be an Aunt Mama. And it is every child’s right to have an Aunt Mama; even the elder tribesmen or the child’s parents cannot rule against it.”

         Susie understood the progression of Kay’s words as she would have understood the changing expression of a face in a picture-story flip-book. Susie fixed on the words, one after the other, each word informing on the next in a gradual story production that involved her in its magic.

         “So when a child is hurt or frightened or alone—or just tired to sleep—the child visits Aunt Mama’s arms. And this is what happens: In order to be small enough to fit closely in Aunt Mama’s arms the child must first become a lit-tle it-ty bit-ty baby again, and so she can be held against Aunt Mama’s breast and hear Aunt Mama’s heart and be rocked to sleep in Aunt Mama’s arms.

         “It’s all very wonderful, and once a baby has been held in Aunt Mama’s arms that baby is given to own, for as long as she sleeps and for the rest of her life, the memory of Aunt Mama’s arms about her. And so even when the baby awakes as the child she was, and even when the child goes away from Aunt Mama—even when the child goes away from Aunt Mama—the sensation of Aunt Mama’s arms never leaves the child’s skin for as long as the child lives. Never.

         “Now all a child need do to become a lit-tle it-ty bit-ty baby and fit in Aunt Mama’s arms is to think to herself, and as fast as she can, these words: Aunt Mama loves me.”

         Annmama loves me, thought Susie.

         “Come, baby. Turn in my arms.”

         Kay undid the top buttons of her housedress.

         “Come to where it’s safe. Come to Aunt Mama.”

         A real baby now, Susie was permitted to be lying with her face in the healing wedge of Aunt Mama’s breasts. And the skin there was as warm, and as powder smooth, and as fragrant as risen dough. And Susie felt Aunt Mama’s heart beating over and over, slowly, on and on, a dependable sound, a sure sound, a perfected sound. And Susie felt herself being rocked. And the mass of Aunt Mama’s breast in her injured eye fell away then refilled her eye, healing it. And that swaying rhythm was in harmony with Aunt Mama’s heartbeat, a constant, sweet monotony of sound in which Susie gradually disappeared from herself, leaving behind the complete and new-found wealth of Susie Hanson: her sleeping trust of an adult’s arms.

        

        

Honest Converation, not Denial is Best for Your Dying Loved One.

My precious, most loved sister, passed away, a victim of cancer on September 28, 2013. I still think of her many times a day. Every little thing I do can spark a memory of her. There are happy memories, but far too often, with the memory comes deep regret. Why didn't I do more? Say more? Understand more? What a fool I was, and what a lot of precious time together I wasted.

I just read an article by Ellen Goodman about conversations about death, published in the New York Times. I wish I'd read it when I was taking care of my loved one before her death. But who knows how I would have translated it to my own situation. My biggest problem, my demise, the source of all my regrets, was that lack of conversation. And the reason I didn't have the important conversations and live accordingly is because of my stubborn denial. I wore my denial like a badge of honor—which in hindsight was just the opposite. It was a travesty, a dishonoring of my sister, and a barrier to all that could have made her death a "good" death, instead of a "bad" one. By bad, I mean one that haunts me with regrets as I look back in many scenarios at what I wish I had done instead of what I did. Many of her last days were "bad" miserable days, that could have been better, if not for my denial

When doctors told her that she would die, and there was nothing else they could do, I said, No way. We will cure this thing. I will not let you die. I researched many "cures," read testimonials of the many saved lives, and begged her to try them. Marijuana has been known to completely rid a person of cancer. The problem was, it was too late. Her cancer had progressed too far for it to work. I couldn't accept that, and really, no one was telling us that, as probably no one knew.

I watched videos that said WE CAN CURE CANCER NOW, and claimed that it didn't matter at what stage your cancer was in. Their programs worked. The treatments included special diet, exercise, heat treatments, oxygen chambers, etc. The science behind all these things seemed sound. And I know of cancer patients who claim this treatment cured their cancer. But none that I know of had cancer as far advanced as hers.

But under my urging, she decided to go to one near her that offered all of the treatments I had been reading about. She was never one to jump into something without investigating it. It turned out that a member of her church had recently taken the treatment and recommended it. She called the facility where we planned to go, explained her situation and the doctors' diagnosis and prognosis and asked if they could help her. They gave her enough assurance that she agreed to go. And so we signed up. I went with her as her support person, and we stayed at the residence in order to take in every bit of the benefits, even though she lived less than a half hour drive away.

My sister commented that her greatest fear was that they would see her and turn her away. She dreaded hearing the words, "We're sorry, but we can't cure you." It would have been honest and much better for Joan if they had. They didn't. And I fault them for that. They surely knew that they could not help her. But they took her money anyway. 

She got very sick while we were there. I figured she would have gotten sick anyway—she had been having these bouts with nausea, diarrhea, fatigue, pain and/or constipation for some time—and I thought it was good that she was there with caring professionals to take care of her. And they did try. There was one woman in particular who took my sister under her wings with gentle, palliative, and comforting care, and as my sister told her, "You saved my life," but ultimately, she just wanted to go home.

It was me with my damnable denial that kept her there. I didn't realize what she was saying when she told me in her gentle, loving way, "If it weren't for you, I'd give up and go home." I took it as a "Good on you, Sis you are keeping me strong so I can do this and get well." I heard it that way because I was so entrenched in my belief that she would get well if we did everything right, if we just fought hard enough that I thought she felt the same way. Now I believe she knew better but was too kind to tell me that what she really meant was, "I want to go home. This isn't working for me, and I hate it, but because you are getting something from it—for your sake—I'll stay."

Even close to the end, when I came back and stayed with her again, my denial kept me from having the conversations that would have helped me make her last days more comfortable and happier. But I always thought there was more time. And so I took a "week or two" off to go home and catch up, thinking she'll make it to her birthday. She'll be here for Thanksgiving, her favorite holiday. She'll see another Christmas.

She didn't. And looking back, as I do many times every day, I see ways in which I could have made the autumn of her life more comfortable, peaceful, and happy. If only I'd let go of my denial of the facts that stared me in the face and listened, really listened, to what she was trying to tell me, and given her what she really wanted.

Freedom

We are too often in life our own jailers,
Our thoughts and fears; lock and key.
We keep our souls in confinement
When we really just want be free.

With concern that our ideas are counter
To what the majority hold
We keep still or nod in agreement
For speaking up for ourselves is too bold.

We wonder how others perceive us
And we make that worry our guide.
Lacking confidence in our own worth,
We keep seeking our true self to hide.

In order to truly have freedom
No matter what trials ensue.
We must quit the quest for vain glory
And to our convictions be true. 

by Janet Muirhead Hill
Author of the Miranda and Stalight books about a girl and the horse she loves. Enjoy the ride.

Confessions of a Dreamer, in rhyme

I like to dream; I do it a lot.
Work gets done in my mind, but not
in the world where I must work
and feel guilty when I shirk.

Books get written in my mind
and to a lesser extent you'll find
real tomes appear, but they're just a few
of all the ones I plan to do.

Ideas come, but I am slow
to act on them so the world might know
what I am actually capable of
writing the things I hate and love.

I get distracted, mostly by doubt
making it hard to get my work out.
And when I find courage, my words to share
I worry a lot that no one will care. 

Jilted, an anonymous poem

Little did I know that night,
that love would come with laughter
nor that tears were in the wings
when sorrow followed after.

All the times were so much fun
the months you courted me
And so I gradually fell in love
when I thought love could not be.

So powerfully that love took hold
I gave heart and soul to you.
'Twas then your love for me grew cold
and you told me we were through.

To another you would to be true
and faithful to the end
and all that you could offer me
was just to be my friend.

Confused and with a broken heart
I cried like ne'er before.
With passion such as I loved you,
I vowed I'd love no more.

And though many years have come and gone
And I've gotten over you,
To that vow I made that night
I have been and still am true.

Danni's Choice

 Coming soon as an ebook on Smashwords and on Amazon's Kindle

Seventeen-year-old Danni, subjected to the horror every woman fears the most, faces the most difficult of all choices – to keep or abort a child. The choice is taken from her by threats of harm to her small sister unless she does as her perpetrators direct. Constantly burdened with fear of harm to her sister, Britt, she struggles to continue her education and create a life better than the one she’d grown up with. And Captain, the boy who was once her best friend—and unwitting partner in crime—remains ever in her thoughts. Did he think of her at all? 

This sequel to The Body in the Freezer (Raven Publishing, 2014) takes place three years later and is seen from alternating viewpoints, as Danni and Captain are separated by more than a thousand miles—and ordered by the court not to be in contact with each other until Danni turns eighteen and is off probation. 

Danni's choice comes with a strong warning, for it is not intended for the usual 8- to12-year-old fans of Janet Muirhead Hill's Miranda and Starlight series of horse stories.

You will see this warning on the first page. 

CAUTION

This book’s adult content includes sex and violence

and confronts serious and controversial moral issues.

Not for children 12 and under!

We rate it PG 13

because bad things can happen

in junior high, too.

Mortality

Regrets
     by R. Grieves

She lies there in lace
With a frown on her face
Trying to trace where she's been.

Her life is 'most over
And she's not walked in clover
Nor White Cliffs of Dover she's seen.

In quiet times she's haunted
By things that she wanted
And now feels taunted by them

She's let others decide
Then has had to abide,
Never to ride on a whim.

Now the chances are gone
And won't again dawn
As more regrets spawn in her head.

The message she's giving
Is to live while you're living
Avoiding misgivings when dead.

Jumbled Thoughts

Confusion

My brain is a jumble
of words as they tumble
       and dive and spin and cavort.

My thoughts, I would trace them
so I could embrace them,
     But there're just too many to sort. 

So, I close my eyes
and heave some deep sighs
     and ask my mind to slow down.

I'd make a list
If I could get the gist
     of the ideas that are whirling around.

Yet the lists that I make
Seem like a mistake
     when new thoughts come whirling by,

So until they calm down
And quit spinning around
    I just watch as like shorebirds they fly. 

By the rimers of JMH

Uncertainty: Necessary in life and in fiction.

Nothing is certain, till life draws the curtain.
Changes in plans are the norm.
Goals are nice, but a throw of the dice
Can thwart the intentions you form.

Rewrites are a must; do them or bust
As new light on your info is shed.
If you're not retelling, you may be rebelling
Over changes you need make to the thread.

But in writing as in life, trouble is rife.
Roadblocks and hurdles appear.
Learn to adjust; to survive, it's a must.
You'll grow as you work through your fear.

And because you have earned every lesson you've learned
You life and your book are improved.
The wisdom of age has made you a sage
And your reader will likewise be moved.  

By the rimers of JMH.

Missing!

Many people whom I loved dearly have gone missing from my life. I think of them a kajillion times a day—until I banish sad thoughts from my mind. They are gone, and they are not coming back.

But sometimes, maybe, it would be okay to think of them, to remember, and to allow myself to be sad for a while.

There is Grandma, who loved me and wanted to be proud of me, and I felt I let her down, but she loved me anyway. I still miss her and remember the things she told me, taught me, and all her loving ways, though she's been gone some 55 years from my life.

Dad and I got off to a bad start when I was only two. I never knew how to relate to him with his stern and quiet ways. But in later years, probably because I'm so much like him, I came to understand the things for which, before, I could not forgive him, nor get over my fear of him. I'm very thankful that I finally realized how much he loved me—and that he always had. And I'd give most anything to have him back to make up for lost time and explore with him the kindred spirits that we are. But he's been gone for more than 16 years. 

And Mom! How I miss her. Being with her was a joy. Having her come to my house to see me when I was grown up and married and living far from home was the best thing that could happen to me. I miss our talks. I miss her sweet and loving ways, her sense of humor and her penchant for always doing the right thing. I hurt her sometimes. And sometimes she hurt me, but always there was love to bind us.  There are so many things I still want to ask her. I can't. She's been gone more than 11 years.

I hurt my sister, too. Never meant to. And she hurt me a time or two, though I know she didn't really want to. It's what we do to our loved ones. Damn it. Then we hate ourselves forever when they are dead and gone. 

Ah, Joan, my dearest sister, friend, and hero, hardly an hour goes by that I don't think of something you said to me, or something I need to ask you, or news I just want to share because you care. Or cared. Always, about everything, no matter how trivial or how serious. In times long gone—going on two years gone, I would pick up the phone and call just about every day. Sometimes more than once a day. But now I can't. you're not there anymore and it seems an unfair tragedy.

A bad plan, this dying thing. You're born, you try to make a life by trial and error, you endear yourself to those who know you, you deteriorate, and you die—to be seen and heard from no more forever.

And it's not just family missing from my life. I'm missing my dearest friend, supporter, and mentor, Florence Ore. She was a role model to me and a confidante and cohort. I'm flooded with fond memories of being with her in her home, discussing books, critiquing writing, sharing woes, and finding a sympathetic ear and wise counsel. I am sad that those days are gone because she is no longer there in her lovely home. Gone for half a year and I miss her. I miss them all, and time won't change that.

So, I'm taking time to remember them, miss them, and be sad. Then I'll love the ones still left and give something of myself to the world by taking what I've learned from those missing. See if I can turn it into something I can leave, even if only good memories, when I become the one who is missing.

Mortality, a poem

A Poem by R. Grieves

The world is spinning and I'm not winning
     Oh, Dear, what should I do?
Time is flying; I'm gradually dying,
     And yet I have so much to do.

Life is waning, though I try to keep on gaining
     Trying to reverse the effects of age
It's best not to fight it, but life—just invite it.
     For in the end we will get our wage.

The wage, says the Bible, for sinning is death
Yet sinning or not, with each drawn breath
     from birth we begin to die.
Knowing that, I would live in each minute
Noticing, cherishing all that is in it
    And not for the unknown future cry.

Life, Really?

LIFE DOES END
by R. Grieves

Life, they say, is for the living,
but it's such an illusive thing.
They say that life's is ever giving,
With the daily "presents" it does bring.

I will not argue that it's not true,
But what of the future and the past
And why must death be our just due?
If life's so great, why can't it last?

Do I sound bitter? Well I am sad.
From seeing loved ones gone.
For most, their ends were very bad
A most unpleasant moving on.

No matter how long since they've been dead
I miss them everyday.
And there are some, I know, will dread
The day death ends my stay.

Could I choose, I would not go.
For loved ones and work, I'd stay,
But the poor, unhappy plan,
Has taken my choice away.  

Night Life

Night Life, by Janet Muirhead Hill

A whole nother life, I live you see
When I am sleeping peacefully
A life of which I've not control
And yet I live there, heart and soul.

I immerse myself in what's going on
Until I wake, and then it's gone.
A dream journal, I do not keep
I just enjoy the life I have in sleep,

Adventures of all kinds and places
Known only in dreams: great open spaces
Houses with a million rooms
Nooks and crannies the size of tombs.

Sometimes I'm driving in a car
Or walking naked on a lonely bar.
Horses, birds and mythical creatures
Talk to me; become my teachers

I enjoy the life I live at night
Which slowly fades with the morning light.
For it takes some time when I awake
To determine which life is mine to make.

Resolutions

New Years Resolutions, by R. Grieves

New Year's resolutions?
Not making them this year,
For in mere months, sometimes days
I break them, that is clear.

Instead I'm setting goals
That are possible to achieve.
Things I want that I can control,
If only I believe.

I'm shunning rules full of don'ts
or promises I cannot keep
Like don't eat that, you will get fat.
Work harder; get more sleep.

Clean your houses and organize,
Be careful what you eat.
Instead I set this goal for me:
Be kind to everyone I meet.

And when it comes daily tasks
I'll give my very best
But will not flagellate myself
 If it seems I failed the test.

Sure, my days are numbered.
That's how it's always been
But I am here, and this is now
I'll live the day I'm in.